Have the courage to be a loner

Life is just the intersection of fate and free will. We call that destiny.

The fate part can be hard to swallow depending on what it is, and free will can sometimes feel more of a burden than a joy. But we should recognise it for what it is and understand that we are the captains of our ship. We can’t change the weather but we can steer the ship. And there’s some comfort in knowing that we have a bit of control and aren’t simply fated to be tossed around by the waves of life. If you feel like you’re being dragged down under, maybe it’s time to shift your focus to the steering wheel. You could be missing safe harbour just off the horizon and all you’ve got to do is turn hard. Do something different with your life.

Have the courage to be a loner. Maybe things will work out for you better than you could ever have imagined.

What did hermits of the past do when they got soul sick for companionship? When you long for something, usually you make do with a poor alternative of the thing. The body always finds a way to re-establish homeostasis.

If the possibility of human interaction being regarded as a negative really seems that alien, you must be way too social for your own good.

Read Kierkegaard, learn that regardless of what you pick, solitude or companionship, you will regret it. Now, instead of despairing at it, this should be freeing. Regardless of what you do, you will regret it, the result will always be the same. That miserable stability, once properly rationalized, will give you foundational security and from that paradox of the truth of life you can begin to hope.

The world is comedically cruel and absurd in that way.